I don't know what I want to train. Is that a problem?

Not a problem. Half the people who message me open with some version of “I don’t really know what I’m asking for.”

You do not need to pick a martial art. Picking a style is a gym problem, because a gym has to put you in a class that already exists. There is no class here, so the question is not which style. It is what you want out of it. Protecting yourself and your kids. Getting in shape because the treadmill is boring you to death. Not feeling useless if something happens. Fighting, eventually.

Answer that and I will build it. Self-defense pulls from no-gi, boxing and awareness work. Conditioning pulls from pads, bags and circuits. Competition is a different plan again. Three black belts, in first-generation Brazilian jiu-jitsu, Kenpo and Tang Soo Do, plus years of Muay Thai, boxing and wrestling, means you are not being fitted into the one thing I teach.

You are also allowed to change your mind. People come in for fitness and stay for grappling all the time.

The honest way to settle it is to train once and see what your body says. An hour of pads and an hour of grappling feel nothing alike, and twenty minutes of each tells you more than a month of reading. Book one session and nothing else purely to find out, or look at what the training covers first.

Do not worry about being behind either. Everybody starts at zero at something, including people who have trained for years in another art. The first months come from showing up on a schedule, not from having picked the perfect discipline in week one. See how long before you actually get better.

Tell me roughly what you are after and your city when you message me.